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What’s Love Got to Do With It, Actually?

Weekend Retreat February 2017

with Holly Johnson & Eric Hassett

Friday, February 10 – Sunday, February 12, 2017


“There is only one fundamental revolution. This revolution is not of idea; it is not based on any pattern of action. This revolution comes into being when the need for using another ceases. This transformation is not an abstraction, a thing to be wished for, but an actuality which can be experienced as we begin to understand the way of our relationship. This fundamental revolution may be called love; it is the only creative factor in bringing about transformation in ourselves and so in society.”

— J. Krishnamurti, On Relationship

About the Program

It's been said that men are from Mars and women are from Venus. Whether you agree or disagree with this statement, or question its relevance, one thing is undoubtedly clear: love is apparently the most mercurial of substances, at times rivaling quicksilver in its fickleness.
Though we have split the atom, set foot on the moon, and put a world of information in the palm of our hands, love, like consciousness, has remained an enigma – vexing humanity in its everlasting pursuit of it, while possibly deluding those who think they’ve found it.
In this weekend program, we will take an in-depth look at what love is – with our eyes keenly focused on what it is not – with the intention of coming upon its essence, together.
Rather than confine love to a definition, our shared interest instead will be to release it from its shackles by seeing and freeing ourselves from what keeps it in check.
That is, in going beyond mere descriptions and explanations, we will attempt to co-create a space not only for shared exploration of the topic of love, but also for looking into "the mirror of relationship" as the dialogue unfolds, that we might see ourselves exactly as we are.
During the course of the weekend we will be viewing and listening to pertinent talks and other recordings, with opportunities for exploring questions that may emerge. There will be time for personal reflection and outdoor walks, and shared meals offer opportunities for connection and further inquiry.

The clear blue skies of Ojai, surrounding mountains and orange orchards provide a serene and supportive setting for inquiry and discovery. The dialogues will be held at Krishnamurti's former home, on the campus of the Krishnamurti Educational Center.

Participants wishing to stay on campus are housed in the Pepper Tree Retreat, a 1910 farmhouse. This program is intended for a range of participants, including those who are either new to the teachings or who have never before participated in a dialogue.
Join us as we set out to do the unthinkable and know the unknowable. Who knows? We may find ourselves seeing the unspeakable while being the ineffable. In other words, we just might discover what it is that love’s got to do with, actually.

Possible Questions to Consider

Is love something to be directed at an object? Typically we use the word love to express our appreciation for something or someone. Is it possible that its true meaning encompasses a wider field? Interpersonal relationships, from the romantic to the familial, hold out the promise of love, only to be tested and often shattered as life’s challenges wear down the threads of connection that keep us together. In attempting to love ourselves or one another, do we rely on an outside authority to tell us how to love? Are we interested in discovering, for ourselves, what love is? If I approach love with the knowledge of what it is to love, can I ever discover for myself what love is? Is it not necessary, then, to go beyond definitions and look to the actuality?

About Dialogue

"A dialogue is very important. It is a form of communication in which question and answer continue until a question is left without an answer. Thus the question is suspended between the two persons involved in this answer and question. It is like a bud with untouched blossoms. If the question is left totally untouched by thought, it then has its own answer because the questioner and the answerer as persons have disappeared. This is a form of dialogue in which investigation reaches a certain point of intensity and depth, which then has a quality which thought can never reach. It is not a dialectical investigation of opinions, ideas, but rather exploration by two or many serious, good brains."

— J.Krishnamurti, from a statement dictated to a Trustee of the Krishnamurti Foundation of India, at Vasanta Vihar on 26-27 January 1984 


Holly JohnsonHolly Johnson has been connected with the KFA since moving to Ojai in 2001. Her interest is in exploring and facilitating inquiry that moves beyond words and images into a felt sense of connectedness. She is blessed to have raised a daughter at the Oak Grove School and feels deeply appreciative of the beauty of the people and the land at the Foundation.



Eric Hassett

Eric Hassett coordinates the monthly dialogue and video showing in Ojai—Looking, Listening, and Shared Inquiry—which is free and open to the public on the fourth Saturday of each month.  Eric also moderates the Krishnamurti Network online community.

"A lifelong appreciation of Krishnamurti's teachings and a longtime passion for dialogue and inquiry make me want to bring people together from all walks of life to share in the kind of open-ended exploration in which Krishnamurti invited us to partake. Whether taking the form of in-person gatherings or online discussions, when people come together to inquire into fundamental questions of living and attempt to observe not just the content of thought but its process in operation, it not only has the potential of deepening one's mere intellectual understanding (in part by hearing others' perspectives), but also offers a unique opportunity to see oneself in 'the mirror of relationship' — and possibly open the door to insights heretofore inaccessible during solitary contemplation."


Program fee: $165

Room fee: $165

The room price is subsidized. The price listed is for shared rooms, and room allocation will be determined by the retreat staff.

Retreat fee includes breakfast; program fee includes lunch and dinner.

Click here to register for the program. For more information click here or call 805.646.4773.

Cancellation Policy

As a small independently owned retreat, cancellations affect us dearly. Cancellations or changes to an existing reservation will be accepted by telephone ONLY. NO cancellations via fax or Email.

  • For theme weekend attendees staying at the retreat: Advanced payments, less a $50 Processing Fee, are refundable when a single reservation is cancelled 7 days prior to the event start date. If a reservation is cancelled less than 7 days prior, the full amount of the Room and Program will be charged.
  • For theme weekend commuters: Advanced payments are refundable when a single reservation is cancelled 7 days prior to the event start date. If a reservation is cancelled less than 7 days prior, the full amount of the program will be charged.


All the dialogues and video showings will take place in the Library (Pine Cottage).

Friday February 10
3:00 PM Retreat Guest Arrival & Check-in
4:30 PM Introductory Meeting
5:30 PM Krishnamurti video/audio

7:00 PM    Supper   
Saturday February 11
8:30 AM Breakfast
9:30 AM Dialogue
11:00 AM Break
11:30 AM Krishnamurti video/audio
1:00 PM       Lunch
2:00 PM Free Time / Activity
4:30 PM Dialogue
7:00 PM Supper
Sunday February 12
8:30 AM Breakfast
9:30 AM Krishnamurti video/audio

10:40 AM Break
11:15 AM Dialogue
1:00 PM Lunch
2:00 PM Closing Meeting
3:00 PM Event Ends
“If you have not got love--not just in little drops but in abundance--if you are not filled with it--the world will go to disaster. You know intellectually that the unity of mankind is essential and that love is the only way, but who is going to teach you how to love? Will any authority, any method, any system, tell you how to love? If anyone tells you, it is not love. Can you say, 'I will practice love. I will sit down day after day and think about it. I will practice being kind and gentle and force myself to pay attention to others'? Do you mean to say that you can discipline yourself to love, exercise the will to love? When you exercise discipline and will to love, love goes out the window. By practicing some method or system of loving you may become extraordinarily clever or more kindly or get into a state of non-violence, but that has nothing whatsoever to do with love.”

— J.Krishnamurti, Freedom from the Known